What a difference a year makes

A year ago today I said bye to Leela, and Lisa and I drove to the hospital to begin the process of getting well.  I couldn’t really get my head around spending 6 weeks in a single room so we basically only looked ahead in shorter time periods.  With no guarantee that the transplant would even work, there was no point in thinking ahead much.  So we didn’t.

Well, a year later, the transplant seems to have worked.  I feel good.  I have been slowly getting strength back in my body.  If you saw me in the first few months after the hospital, I was rail thin and I had what I termed “hospital posture”.  Hunched and protective.  That has changed.  I started taking Tai Chi classes twice a week.  It is fantastic.  Great for posture, strength, and energy.

There is also movement all around.  My wife Lisa, after months upon months of unbelievable service, sacrifice, and wearing too many hats in our family;  is getting back into a rhythm of self care and visioning her professional future.. I am figuring out how to spread my gratitude and payback of the karmic debt to her over the rest of our lives.

Leela has started school three times a week and is thriving.

My sister Joanne has become a workout fiend and is getting into the best shape of her life.  And the program she has been taking for months is more about how you are in the world than about how you appear in the world.

The brave Men who have been attending my two ongoing Men’s circles are doing incredible work.  The type of work that is the antidote to all the gloom and doom we hear about in the news.

So with growth, inspiration, and movement happening all around us, this is a great time to be out in the world.

So, I celebrate my freedom today with a quote from the great Jewish scholar Hillel:

“If I am not for myself, then who will be for me? And if I am only for myself, then what am I? And if not now, when?”

About tomkelley
Counselor, facilitator at LifeLeadersForum, father of a little angel and husband of a Goddess

3 Responses to What a difference a year makes

  1. Andy Starbuck says:


    Great update, great email, and great quote. Happy to hear all of it.

    Go Huskies,

  2. Victoria says:

    This post made my whole day Tom!!! You are an absolute inspiration and your Lisa is a Rockstar! I can’t wait to see you guys when I am in NY in September. And keep planning that trip back to Florida! Love you guys – Victoria

  3. Charlie Bounty says:

    Great post Tom. Very glad things are progressing well for all of you.

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